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Although you may believe that you are indispensable, you might, one day, become unable to work. Perhaps you develop an illness which means you must take time away from work to recover fully either physically, emotionally or both.
You may not want to take this time away from work although you are told that it is vital you do, or circumstances may mean you have no choice because of the type of work you do or the type of treatment you have to undergo.
Doctors, like you, are particularly bad at taking necessary time away from work to fully recover. You feel guilty at letting your patients down and even more, you realise your colleagues will have to do much more work to cover for your absence until you return or how quickly a locum is found.
You know that even with good locum cover there will be a considerable number of their patients who would rather wait to see their ‘own’ doctor when you return.
All these factors can result in you not taking enough time to fully recover from your illness and so you may return and be less able to cope with the work load, take more time to do simple tasks and are not able to work as efficiently or even as competently as before.
What is the alternative? If you are a doctor who is or becomes ill then what you must do is to be more ‘selfish’. The word ‘selfish’ may have bad connotations for you.
Think about it meaning ‘self-care’.
Don’t wait to find solace in drink or drugs, or until you reach crisis point. Find someone to encourage and support you unconditionally. Don’t wait until you become so exhausted that you become ‘burnt out’ and have to take early retirement on health grounds.
Instead put yourself first for a change. Listen to what you are advised to do and decide whether you can do that. Put your own needs to recover fully at the top of your agenda and don’t let guilty feelings about letting people down get in the way of your personal needs to recovery time.
It’s a hard lesson to realise that you are dispensable but it’s true. So do the best for you and then you will be in the best state to get on with whatever you want.
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