Part of looking after yourself is about finding the right person to support you through some difficult decisions.
A huge leap out of your comfort zone is making the first contact with a coach: it may seem as though you are admitting not being able to find the way forward yourself.
Not at all: contacting a coach is about recognising what you need at this time and also deciding it’s time to do the things you’ve been dithering about for so long.
Perhaps you’ve procrastinated because you want to be sure it will be the right decision. Can we ever know what is the right decision? Unless you have a go at the things you really want to do, how can you ever know whether its will be right or wrong for you? Go for it!! It’s important to do something and then if need be change direction as needed.
The value of working with a coach is unquantifiable: after just a few sessions you will make huge leaps in what you think, do and believe about yourself and start to do things you’ve been stuck about for a long time.
This is what a recent client (consultant physician) emailed me after a few weeks coaching from me:
While at first, phone calls and e-mails seemed a funny way to discuss such personal matters, it really works. When I feel in danger of becoming a ‘I hate my job’ bore with my friends – I can tell you instead! Somehow you helped me to lift my head up above the endless cycle of asking myself the same questions over and over again, and help me to take control over my decisions. I think that you have helped me to gain a lot of confidence in myself over the last few months, and have helped me to do my work a lot better. While ultimately the decision is mine, it is lovely to have your support and encouragement. It is important to me that you are independent ,with no ‘angle’ on my decision, unlike my husband and parents (who would prefer me to continue in my work but are coming round to the idea that they would like me to be happy.) The hardest thing that you have started is to help me face up to uncertainty about the future. Well, if my boss seems happy to do that – he seems confident that he would be able to fill my job, then I should be. I find his confidence in his ability to replace me a little unnerving!
Sometimes you realise that something has to change in your life:Coaching can be the catalyst you need!