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How working with a coach enables you to have a life and find your perfect balance between medicine and life

Perfect Work Life Balance

How working with a coach enables you to have a life and find your perfect balance between medicine and life

A coach:-

  • Pushes your buttons – so you think about whether you could make changes
  • Encourages you to do things you hadn’t considered before- so by doing something different other things in your life change too
  • Reminds you to keep on track with  your projects- so you achieve what you want
  • Follows up your promises of taking action – so you move forward step by step
  • Energises you to get started- by believing in your ability to succeed
  • Coaches you to find the solutions right for you- so you are empowered
  • Talks about the pros and cons of what you might do- so you move forward with conviction

 

  • Believes in you and your capabilities, so your self-esteem improves
  • Answers your questions, so you understand more about the process
  • Listens to you fully –so you feel  respected
  • Alerts you to possible challenges –so you are prepared for them
  • Never criticises your ideas, so you feel valued
  • Communicates with you appropriately –so you feel listened to
  • Encourages you at every step, so you keep going until you achieve what you want

Look here for some recent feedback from doctors about how they experienced  Coaching from me. 

Doctor, here is: Time for You

In my experience  the most common issue that doctors want to discuss with me is:

Wanting more balance in their lives.

Coaching around work-life balance tends to  include discussing time management as well as self-care, and the meaning of success. As a Coach I encourage my medical clients to recognise how  vital it is that they have a life outside of medicine. They don’t always fully understand the concept that  there is more to life than medicine because there is so much pressure to pass exams in order to climb their perceived ladder of success.

A doctor’s life can be, and often is,  very stressful as well as  busy and overwhelming. An internet search for stress, burnout and doctors will bring up hundreds of articles about this common experience amongst doctors.

Working as a doctor is not only challenging and busy but also interesting so most doctors are passionate about medicine.  Sometimes both they and others may wonder how they keep going with so much to do and so little time to do it. The work-load can be overwhelming and there seems to be no way to lessen it.

However there are ways that doctors can lead a fuller life so that medicine is fulfilling yet be combined with a satisfying  life outside of medicine.  With coaching they can discover ways to have more time for family and friends,  their partner, their community, and for nurturing themselves body-mind-and-spirit and having fun.

Over the years I’ve found that doctors having a few coaching sessions with me have been able to find ways to move forward and lower their stress levels especially in areas connected with time management, work life balance and their health and well-being.

I’m working towards producing ways that you can improve these parts of your life with information by email and on my web site, yet many doctors (in or out of Medicine) find that one to one personal and confidential coaching offers a way to have a sounding board and be motivated and that the individual  attention is something that you can’t get from a generic course aimed at helping many doctors.

If you’ve never experienced how coaching can empower you to make changes and enable you to discover your own solutions then this is for you.

Please go HERE to pay and book for your Personal Strategy session.

Gifts for the New Year

Happy New Year
Happy New Year

 

Washing you Seasonal Greetings and a Very Happy, Healthy and Successful New Year!

It’s that time of the year when you can make new promises to yourself and decide to make the changes you want to your life.

Read about coping with New Year Resolutions and gifts to give yourself here: (and if you don’t have a kindle you can download a kindle app for either your Mac or PC from  Amazon.)

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Doctors and holidays another article.

I wrote previously about doctors and holidays and have just read an article from Software Advice about the same subject you might find interesting. I wonder whether you think the same rules apply to those of you who have their medical practice in the UK?

What struck me is the stories of so many doctors who never take holidays at all.  This can only lead to increased stress and an effect on general health and well-being.

Time for a holiday?

Here is the article: (Click the heading to read the whole article )

5 Rules for Taking a Vacation as a Solo-Practice Doctor – Software

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5 Rules for Taking a Vacation as a Solo-Practice Doctor Software Advice (blog) It’s hard enough for any of us to consider taking a vacation in the current economic climate, let alone those of us responsible for the health of

 

 

How will you feel when feeling stressed is no longer a problem?

The news is always full of stories about stressed and overworked doctors who  wonder how they can cope with all the tasks that have  to be fitted into each day.

If you are a busy doctor  what would be the most important issue or problem you would like to get rid of?

  • managing time more effectively?
  • having a better work-life balance ?
  • looking after your health and well-being?

Please let me know HERE by answering a short survey.

Click here to take survey

Take some  time to think about your life and whether it’s the way you want it to be.

Then work out, step by step what you need to do differently.

Always start with yourself because by changing yourself others will respond differently.

One of the most important things you can do is to improve your level of communication by listening twice as much as talking. This will improve the morale  within the practice and lead to a new more productive working environment with partners and staff becoming more motivated.

You will find that if you make small changes in the way you work that you can achieve real change for the better both for yourself and for the your medical practice.

Just like a spreadsheet when you change one thing everything else changes too.

It’s easy to stay stuck and not do anything to change the situation. People who have taken steps to do things differently are surprised at how easy it turned out to be. They have procrastinated for ages because they thought taking the first step would be more difficult.

 

Make the decision about what you need to do, find someone such as a coach or mentor to support you and go forward to live the life you want.

 

 

Keeping motivated…..

Coaching doctors for support and motivation

Part of looking after yourself is about finding the right person to support you through some difficult decisions. 

A huge leap out of your comfort zone is making the first contact with a coach: it may seem as though you are  admitting not being able to find the way forward yourself.

Not at all: contacting a coach is about recognising what you need at this time and also deciding it’s time to  do the things you’ve been dithering about for so long.

Perhaps you’ve procrastinated because you want to be sure it will be the right  decision.  Can we ever know what is the right decision? Unless you have a go at the things you really want to do, how can you ever know whether its will be right or wrong for you? Go for it!! It’s important to do something and then if need be change direction as needed.

The value of working with a coach is unquantifiable: after just  a few sessions you will make huge leaps in what you think, do and believe about yourself and start to do things you’ve been stuck about for a long time.

This is what a recent client (consultant physician) emailed me after a few weeks coaching from me:

While at first, phone calls and e-mails seemed a funny way to discuss such personal matters, it really works. When I feel in danger of becoming a ‘I hate my job’ bore with my friends – I can tell you instead! Somehow you helped me to lift my head up above the endless cycle of asking myself the same questions over and over again, and help me to take control over my decisions. I think that you have helped me to gain a lot of confidence in myself over the last few months, and have helped me to do my work a lot better. While ultimately the decision is mine, it is lovely to have your support and encouragement. It is important to me that you are independent ,with no ‘angle’ on my decision, unlike my husband and parents (who would prefer me to continue in my work but are coming round to the idea that they would like me to be happy.) The hardest thing that you have started is to help me face up to uncertainty about the future. Well, if my boss seems happy to do that – he seems confident that he would be able to fill my job, then I should be. I find his confidence in his ability to replace me a little unnerving! 

Sometimes you realise that something has to change in your life:Coaching can be the catalyst you need! 

 

Coaching supports you

Find someone to support you

I’m coaching an established Consultant who works in a well known NHS trust.

With his permission, I want to tell you  what he has found useful about having coaching with me.
He contacted me because he wanted support and encouragement to develop a private medical practice.

He found that I:  listened patiently to his career ambitions which included a detailed discussion of how he could develop a private practice.

He writes: We discussed numerous issues including: work-life balance, ideal working day, impact on family life and money.
The solution to the development of the practice has emerged gradually over a number of sessions.
The main solution has been encouragement to push forward boldly, and to understand that a contented working life is not a selfish ambition but one that can result in benefits for all stake-holders (e.g. patients, colleagues, family) including myself.
He has, so far, achieved:
More courage to make decisions regarding NHS vs. private practice
 A successfully developing private practice at one of the hospitals identified as a possible site for work.
A great chance to discuss some of these issues, which are so often overlooked or simply not discussed in work.
What I offer him  is a confidential space to discover the way forward.
If you want support and encouragement to develop your private, independent medical practice;
If you feel stuck and want to talk then CALL ME
I won’t tell you what to do: I’ll listen to you and challenge you to think about alternatives you may not have considered before.

Enabling you to find your own Prescription for Change

Doctors and Holidays?

Holidays are supposed to be a relaxing and enjoyable time, even if you are a doctor. It should be a time  to let go of the overwhelm of your medical practice and reconnect not only with family and friends but also with yourself.

But your experience may not be the idyllic time of fun and relaxation portrayed in the travel brochures. Your holiday  may equal your expectation of  what ought to happen when you take time away from work.
Instead of feeling refreshed and relaxed you come back to your patients feeling worse than they look,  exhausted, frustrated  and wondering what happened to your dreams of rest and relaxation.

While away you found it was almost impossible to forget about work- related worries and however much you tried to leave technology at home you found yourself checking and answering emails and discussing work issues with colleagues via email or Skype in spite of the irritation and annoyance of your family or friends.

You’ve been left wondering if it always has to be like that: whether as a doctor you can ever ‘get away from it all’, and enjoy a holiday.
But it doesn’t have to be like this! There is an alternative if you can do just three simple things:

  1. set boundaries
  2. look after yourself
  3. relax

Setting  boundaries: decide before you go away what you will accept  in relation to emails, telephone calls and dealing with emergencies: by making sure you have arranged adequate cover for your routine work, told those who need to be told what you do not want to be contacted about and who will deal with any urgent problems.

Looking after yourself: remember to address your needs in relation to:  body, mind and spirit so exercise regularly, by walking swimming or whatever opportunities your holiday destination offers, eat and drink well but not excessively; and enjoy the moment whether it’s a wonderful sunset a magnificent view from the top of a mountain or across the sea or whatever inspires you in your holiday environment.

Relax: Be aware of areas of tension in your body then consciously take a deep slow breathe in and as you breathe out let go of that tension. Repeat this exercise during the day whenever you think about work or things you have to do when you return.

There are of course many other things you could do when on holiday to let go of the work stress and return refreshed and face the challenges again.

However if you make a start with these three and please put a comment below this post with your thoughts about more  ways which help doctors enjoy their holidays more and leave work stress behind them for a while so that they, and you, can  come back to work refreshed and ready to tackle problems.

 

Be a more confident doctor, now!

In your day to day medical practice, whether you are an independent medical practitioner or employed by the NHS, have you ever felt as if you don’t really know how you got to where you are today?
Are you a doctor who is lacking in confidence and wonders if someone will ‘find out’?
Would you like to find ways to boost your confidence so you can:

  • Do what you want to do for the patient when and how you want to do it without being challenged or doubts coming into your mind.
  • Be relaxed, comfortable and secure so that you are assertive about what you want for your patient.
  • Believe in yourself and your ability to deal with the medical situation and know when to refer to someone else.
  • Do as well as you can and also being realistically aware of your own shortcomings.
  • Set yourself achievable, realistic goals for your medical professional life, and for your out of work life too.

Coaching can enable you to achieve all of these, improve your confidence and encourage and motivate you to achieve what you truly want in or out of Medicine.