It’s not uncommon for doctors just like you to feel dissatisfied with their life.
You like them may think there is little you could do to improve the situation and may be blaming ‘the system’ for most of your frustrations at work.
Yet you are becoming increasingly aware of how these spill over into your home life and social life too. You find that Medicine takes so much of your waking hours that you have little energy left for the few hours left each day when you are supposed to be living the rest of life. The whole concept of work-life balance may seem an impossible dream.
You know you want something to be different but are not quite sure what you really want, when you would like the change to happen, why you want to change, who might be able to help you or how to make the changes you want to make.
So there’s the challenge. Can you make the shift from thinking about how frustrated and unhappy you are to changing your life to be more in line with the way you want it to be.?
Is this just a pipe-dream or could it actually be possible to make changes which would improve your life in some ways so at least some of the frustrating parts wouldn’t overwhelm you so much and more of your time could be spent following more enjoyable pursuits with people you want to spend the time of day with?
Having a more balanced life and finding time to do more of what you want to do is possible. When you start to examine what’s happening and the reasons for it you can begin to find that there are things that can be changed quite simply.
The easiest first step is to pick just one thing that annoys you. Ask yourself what could happen instead for things to improve for you. Then challenge your assumptions about the situation. Ask if it really has to be that way and what small thing has to change to make a difference to you. Which of your boundaries have to change? Who will you tell that you will no longer so such and such?
As you tease out the situation in this way you are very likely to find a very simple change that would make a difference to your working practice.
You have to take courage in your hands and talk to the person involved. For example tell the person who makes the appointments you are not prepared to see any extra. Doing this will enable you to leave earlier, have time for a swim or meet your children from school or whatever else you want to do if you went home earlier than you do now.